Why You Need to Stop Comparing Yourself With Others
Do not underestimate yourself by comparing yourself with others. It's our differences that make us unique!
We are in Education. We have a calling to a ‘Ministry’. We are honored and privileged to help shape the minds (and workforce preparedness) of the next generation. If you struggle with issues of self-esteem and insecurity (and
In truth, those comparisons are a big part of the reason why so many of us struggle with insecurity. What often...is the picture in our head of how we are supposed to be. We are who we are, and if we want to succeed, we will have to succeed as ourselves.
Here are 10 ways to get yourself back on the right path:
1. Accept that you have choices. When you compare yourself to others, you fail to accept or acknowledge the choices you truly have. If you can concentrate on those choices, on the other hand, you can find the alternative that works best for you. Keep the focus on your own situation, your strengths, your own goals, and you'll never stray far from the right path.
2. Keep working toward your goals. Instead of comparing yourself to anyone else, measure where you are now compared to a month or a quarter or a year ago and appreciate the progress you are making. And if you see instead that you're not progressing toward your goals, it's most likely because those goals are not clearly defined. It's not because of anything wrong or inferior with you, and it certainly doesn't have anything to do with anyone else. Measure your own progress and hold yourself accountable for that--and no more.
3. Recognize your limitations. When you compare yourself to others, the worst thing you can do is bank on your limitations. People often concentrate on what they're not good at and they spend their time wishing they could be better. Instead, recognize your limitations, but don't allow them to limit you. Understand them and then defy them. Sometimes the best way to excel is to set your own rules.
4. Embrace your uniqueness. Comparisons don't leave room for the things that make you unique. What are your gifts? What makes you different? The purpose of your life is to find your voice and make your own mark on the world. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. That's why you can never truly be compared to anyone else.
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